.png)
Resilient is one of our 5 Baker words.
a : capable of withstanding shock without permanent deformation or rupture
b : tending to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change
Every morning when Jess is done feeding our son, I make her breakfast and I take him so she can eat. We do a quick diaper change, and get some skin on skin time. We sing a worship song, we pray, and then we go over the Baker values.
Picking some words for our family values has been fun. I’ll write a full blog soon on my morning routine with him, and one on our Baker values.
One of those words is resilience. It’s something I included because I’ve seen my parents truly model this word in their lives.
So I tell my son, every morning: “Bakers are resilient. When the world might knock us down, we get back up every time.”
What’s a recent blow that’s been dealt to you? What’s that recent shock? Some of you guys are going through huge ordeals right now. And some of you are going through other set backs that feel big. Sometimes we have an easier time dealing with the bigger blows than the myriad of little things.
Our most recent shock has been a big change to our schedule.
Is this a huge deal, no. But it is an adjustment. I’ve learned that it’s okay for me to feel what I feel. And feeling guilty for how I feel is a waste of emotional energy. When this happened it FELT like a big deal to Jess and I. But it’s what I do about that feeling that matters.
What’s your gut response when you face that shock? My inner child wants to throw a tantrum and take my ball and go home. I want to quit. I want to destroy all the forward progress I’ve been working hard at and go hid under my covers. That’s my gut. I obviously don’t give in to that desire.
So here’s my 10 step resilient process:
1. Breathe.
Take some deep breaths. Oxygen is good.
2. Zoom out.
Zooming out helps me realize this is just for a season, a short season and we can readjust. This is also a great time to get thankful for ALL the things outside of the issue you’re facing that are amazing.
3. Take responsibility.
How could I have avoided or prevented this? Where did I drop the ball?
4. Learn.
What lessons can I learn for the future so this type of thing doesn’t happen again?
5. Brainstorm.
Is there is any good alternatives, any angle I’m missing, is there a better solution than what has been offered.
6. Dream.
If I had unlimited resources how would I solve this problem. If you come up with a solution in this stage then you’ve found your ideal. Plan a way to get there.
7. Peace.
Make peace with the new reality. If there is no viable option or other solution and I’ve exhausted every idea on how I could change things, then it’s time to accept our new reality.
8. Plan.
Come up with a plan to make this new reality amazing. Prioritize how I can make the best of this situation.
9. Action.
Take massive action in implementing this new plan well and making the most of it.
10. Attitude.
Choose to have a great attitude about the new reality. Because sulking doesn’t make things better.
What would you add? Comment and let us know.
