The subtle slip into hardness of heart.
I’ve noticed recently, whenever I’m getting salty it’s because I feel entitled to something that I’m not getting.
How do we deal with the disappointment of not getting what we think we deserve?
Do we have legitimate needs? Did we communicate those needs to others or are we assuming other people will know what we need without us telling them?
Or are we simply disappointed because things did not go the way we envisioned and thought they should have.
Entitlement is rooted in lack. Whereas thankfulness is readily acknowledging what we already have.
I don’t always have control over what I lack, but I can always be thankful for what I have.
What role does resilience play in keeping our heart malleable.
I was listening to Grit yesterday while I was cleaning on the west side. Some phrases that stood out are: learned helplessness, fixed mindset and growth mindset.
A fixed mindset says this is how things are there will be no change. “This is my lot in life.”
Whereas a growth mindset is focused on learning and growing, taking ownership, reassessing and moving forward.
Bitterness is rooted in a fixed mindset. We give into the hopelessness that this present circumstance is how it will always be.
A growth mindset looks at these disappointments as learning experiences. How can I grow so that I can have different results next time.
A growth mindset is optimistic, and knows that hard work is required. It enjoys pushing through hardship. It’s adaptable and won’t let less than ideal circumstances alter the output.
Grit and a growth mindset says I will work in less than ideal circumstances to completion of the task no matter how many iterations it takes.
Failure is just one of the many steps to success.
Do you have a fixed or growth mindset?
